I used to hate my appearance. Here's how I learned to accept it

I used to hate my appearance. Here's how I learned to accept it

Charlotte Joy’s battle with Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) began in her early teenage years, when her dissatisfaction with her appearance escalated into an all-consuming struggle. She recalls waking up hours before school just to apply makeup, obsessively removing and reapplying it in a desperate attempt to achieve perfect symmetry. This compulsive behavior eventually led her to withdraw from social activities; she isolated herself to the point where attending college was limited strictly to exams, and she avoided prom altogether due to the fear of having her picture taken.

Diagnosed with BDD, Charlotte’s experience highlights the difference between general body dissatisfaction and clinical body dysmorphia. Viren Swami, a professor of social psychology, explains that BDD involves a preoccupation with perceived physical flaws that others barely notice or consider normal. These fixations provoke intense emotional distress, compulsive behaviors like frequent mirror checking, and intrusive thoughts that dominate a person’s life, often causing everything else to fade into the background. Swami emphasizes that although women more commonly report body dissatisfaction, BDD affects all genders without significant distinction.

Charlotte’s path to recovery involved therapy through local mental health services and an inpatient stay at a specialized anxiety disorder unit in London. While there, she engaged in occupational activities such as art, pottery, and songwriting, which rekindled her connection to music. “It helped me channel my perfectionism, taking it out of the dark and into the light and dissipating that shame,” she shares. After leaving treatment, Charlotte began to share her story online, hoping to inspire others facing similar challenges. Swami advises individuals suspecting they have BDD to seek their GP’s support, and for friends or family members to approach loved ones with patience and understanding, recognizing that BDD is a serious condition requiring professional help.

Similarly, Tilly Kaye also developed BDD in her early teens. She describes overwhelming feelings of ugliness and social anxiety, to the extent that she “could never look in a public mirror” and found dressing for social events distressing. Initially mistaking her symptoms for low self-esteem or depression, Tilly’s condition worsened when she started university, comparing herself unfavorably to peers within the fashion industry. It was eventually through an NHS psychotherapist and participation in a support group that she received a proper diagnosis and began effective treatment. Today, Tilly has gained greater control over her thoughts, recognizing that her self-perception fluctuates and is not how others see her. She reflects, “I found this joy in my life again, and for the first time since childhood I felt love towards myself.” Both Charlotte and Tilly’s stories underscore that recovery from BDD is possible, offering hope to those impacted by the disorder

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