On Grindr you're an object, like picking clothes online

On Grindr you're an object, like picking clothes online

Lewis found a gateway to explore gay culture through hook-up apps like Grindr, which was lacking in his rural upbringing in Dumfriesshire. Initially enthralled by the convenience of casual sexual encounters at his fingertips, it quickly turned into an addiction for him. The immediate validation and dopamine rush from receiving messages became enjoyable but also damaging as he started equating his self-worth with his physical appearance. This led him down a path of low self-esteem, constantly seeking validation through quick sexual encounters that left him feeling dirty and anxious.

Grindr, the largest social networking app for the LGBTQ community with approximately 15 million active monthly users, has normalized easy access to sex for many, both gay and heterosexual individuals. While some view it positively without much thought, others believe it perpetuates a culture of instant gratification and devalues meaningful connections. Lewis struggled to establish deeper relationships beyond mere sexual encounters in a society where many young gay men prioritize one-dimensional interactions.

Jacob Alon, a rising singer compared to 70s folk legend Nick Drake, addressed the experience of engaging in casual sex with strangers on dating apps like Grindr through his music. His song “Liquid Gold 25” delves into the emptiness and degradation he felt after a series of hook-ups that left him hollow. Alon acknowledged the potentially fun aspect of these encounters but also pointed out the toxic culture it can foster. Risking personal safety by meeting strangers in the middle of the night, as Alon shared, underscored the risky nature of hook-up culture.

The roots of hook-up culture within the LGBTQ community can be traced back to a time when same-sex relationships had to be concealed due to legal restrictions. With the advent of legalizing homosexual acts in the UK in the late 1960s, this culture has evolved to provide constant access to sexual encounters through a simple swipe on a phone. At a Glasgow bar, individuals like Fintan, Kip, and James embraced Grindr for what it is – a platform primarily for hook-ups with no façade of seeking meaningful connections. Their candid comments revealed the superficial nature of interactions on the app, with little emphasis on emotional engagement and a focus on immediate physical gratification

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